Drown Out the Voices

Hello guys, welcome back to my blog.

I received a lot of love on my last blog post and I am truly grateful. I posted the picture above on my Instagram yesterday promising to put the post up today. By the way, if you're not following me on Instagram, you should do so now, I am on Instagram as @zinogold1. thank you very much.

Back to the business of the day. In the world today, it is very easy to be swept around by the cacophony of voices all around you. There's people constantly advising you on what you should or should not be doing.

Family members, friends and of course social media (whether we admit it or not) all have huge roles in our perception of life and the choices we make everyday. The problem is there's so much information, advice, tips, ideas, self-help guides and so on out there that you sometimes end up even more confused.

Of course, there's also the negative voices, the naysayers and the people who will try to shoot down every idea you come up with. They also try to come off as well meaning, telling you things like they know your strengths and this new venture is not one of them.

The question now is how do you filter through all of these voices, how can you get a formula that works for you as a person without having to try everything you see or hear while hoping for the best ?BWF

To be honest, I myself have been on this boat and still am. Everyday, I am still struggling to rediscover myself. If you read my comeback post, you will know how I struggled to find my place as a blogger. Hence, today I will be sharing a few tested tips on how to drown out the voices and find your place.

Tip 1: Shut Off

This is actually easier said than done but the truth is the first thing you need to do in this journey of self discovery is to shut off all outside influences. It is called 'self discovery' for a reason because this journey is about 'self' not others. Before seeking or implementing any advice, you need to shut off from it all and really ask yourself what kind of advice you should be seeking in the first place. When you have come to your own, you can now begin to seek for the help of others.

Tip 2: Have a Filter

While there are a lot of people claiming to be experts on this or that, fact is you don't need everyone's advice. You need to create some sort of filter for yourself. Based on what you have already discovered about yourself during your shut off period, you will most likely be able to identify a few people who have been down a similar path as you and you can learn from them. This does not mean that you will not learn from others aside the people you have penned down in your head but it just helps as a buffer so you are not bounced around.

Tip 3: Never Expect Perfection

This is a very important thing when learning from others. Never expect perfection from yourself or from them either. It's okay if you fail a few times, your coach/mentor probably did too. It is also important not to expect perfection from a mentor. They make mistakes, they're human too. A lot of people have unrealistic expectations from their mentors/ coaches and end up extremely disappointed when such have certain failures or do not meet up to the high standards they have built in their mind and this can be very detrimental to your progress.
Let me also mention at this point, you cannot have one mentor for all areas of life. You might admire someone for their business intellect but perhaps their love life is in shambles, this doesn't mean you should let the person go, keep learning business skills from them and take relationship tips from someone else. Eazy Peazy.

Tip 4: Do Not Believe All That You See or Hear

People have a smoke screen in front of their lives all the time and they will only let you see what they want you to see. This is especially true on Social Media, do not be fooled by all of it. There are people who will portray themselves like they have their lives all figured out but they are really just struggling like you and me and there are others who will tell you tales of hustling and grinding and really have some other shady means behind the scenes bankrolling their lifestyle. Do not be carried away by what you see or hear.

Tip 5: Do What's Best for You

At the end of the day you need to do what will be best for you and not for anyone else. You live with the consequence of your own decisions so it is important that you think things through and make sure that that next plunge is for you not just because it's the new cool or because everyone around is.

That's all I have for today guys, I hope these tips really help somebody. Keep being the best versions of yourself.

Xoxo,

Zino.